This book is above all else a love story, but not one of those lovey dovey everything is perfect love story. It really asks the questions how well do you know the person you are married to? and how well do they know you? It also deals a lot with a relationship that was formed very quickly, and how those relationships aren't so very different from traditional relationships, where there's a longer courtship, and more time to really know what makes your partner tick, and sometimes blow. That said, there are soo very many similarities between the relationships where you know every last detail about your partner, versus the kind where you barely know anything but love them just the same. Whic is best? I'm not sure there is a "best", but they sure do have similarities.
I really do agree with the main character, Jeremy's father, in this excerpt from the book after Jeremy and Lexie (his fiancee) have had a fight
"Well, then I'd say it takes two to tango. My guess is that both of you are right and both of you are wrong. That's the way most arguments go, anyway. People are who they are and no one is perfect, but marriage is about becoming a team. You're going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you'll always figure out a way to get through it."
I love that quote... it certainly rings true, in an arguement, each person has a little piece of it to own, and without that acknowledgement it's easy to blame the other person, and thereby make the situation worse. You feel more wronged and more indignant that you are right and the other party is wrong. Marriage really is about becoming a team, and spending less time conflicting and more time working together to achieve a commom goal, one that is determined by both parties. Without your eye on the goal though it's easy to get diverted off track and that's when things seem to turn inwards against one another. I love the end of the excerpt, "if you love each other, you'll always figure out a way to get through it."
Stay tuned for more of my review of this book!! It really is a great book soo far!!
Amy
I loved this book!! Have you read The Lucky One by Nicholas Sparks? If not, I highly recommend it. The movie is coming at in 2012 and can I hardly wait. Happy Tuesday!
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